1000XT or 1000XMR? Perplexed!

Hey all. Can’t get the looks of the XMR out of my mind. Crazy good looking machine. I’ve been reading posts for about two weeks now for hours a day. Think I’m more confused than before I started as to what’s the best for me. I can say with confidence I’m never going to ride whatever I get, in mud that’s over the seat, so maybe I should just go with the XT. I read all the things about suspension, low end torque, trail riding the XMR and stuff but have some questions. I see the XMR has a speed limiter so top speed is 65ish. How fast does the XT go? I definitely want the option of the rear seat so I’d have to go with the 1000 with the XMR but would probably get the 850 in the XT if I go that way. Think I read the XT does 90ish. Is that correct? I see guys posting that the XMR suspension has no give when heavy guys get on. I’m 240 lbs and 56 years old. Not looking to have a suspension with no give. I’m thinking the majority of my riding will be power lines, thru the woods but want to plan for the unexpected. Someone told me just change the tires and suspension on the XMR and you have the XTP. I don’t want to change the suspension but the tires are no big deal. That said what’s better in the snow? I plan on getting the flex plow with whatever I get. The tires that come on the XT or the silverbacks? Guys complain of the the rear angled footrests. That’s easy to take them off or maybe even fabricate some that sit flat. So as I see it the things that could be important are too stiff a suspension if that’s the case. Maybe not enough top end speed. Is the XMR an air ride? Thought i read that it is. If so why the complaints of too stiff a suspension. Guys suggest the XTP. Not loving that with bead thing and the color. May not need the radiator relocate and snorkel but damn it looks cool. I feel like a 13 year old saying that but 15 grands a lot of dough. I want it to look tough. Thanks for any feedback you might have. I should probably copy and paste this in the XT thread for XT owners feedback. :th_smiliefrustrated